He smiled as he thought about all those after-school trips over the last few years: dance classes, piano practices, the unending cycle of softball games and tournaments.He glanced at her in the seat next to him and thought, .It’s not that our teens were not interested in dates beyond a friendship, but we had talked through the few pros and the many cons of exclusive dating enough that they felt changing the relationship from friendship to romance might ruin the friendship.Our teenagers would all say that their prom dates were a lot of fun. Many of the parents were involved with before-dance dinners, chaperoning the dance, and hosting after-dance activities at homes or rented facilities.That’s why it’s so important for our teens to wait to date.Spiritual and emotional maturity can only come with time.Also, parents need to evaluate the vitality of the Christian walk of the person who may date one of their children.
In light of our reformatted definition of dating, we have the following very general age guidelines for spending time with a friend of the opposite sex (these are for our children still living at home).These external behaviors can be a reflection of good parental training.It takes time to discover those qualities about a person and even more time to see if they are enduring or just a pretense.They need to be very choosy about whom they spend time with in light of that definition.
Help them write down the qualities they want to look for in the person they marry. That list then becomes the criteria by which all potential dates are measured.
Whom they should date As a starting point, we believe our teens should develop friendships with and eventually date only other Christians (2 Corinthians -16).