You want to know who actually lives in your area, not just somewhere in the same state. The chat message is kept in your inbox and you decide when to answer it.Unless you specifically delete them, conversations are saved so you can always refer to them later.For a point of comparison, we’ve heard the same thing from gay friends who are “mainstream attractive” (e.g. Every date they’re on, they’re afraid the guy just likes their body and their looks and doesn’t care about them as people. Some chubs have loved the way they looked all their lives. We also know some are seeking out friends and want to build their belonging in the community. Because we blend two different models—social media and dating/personals—we offer a more social approach to dating that suits gay micro-communities.It’s a legitimate fear for anyone, but not all guys who like someone’s body are disinterested in their mind. Some have fought long and hard to learn to love their bodies. Our hope is that someday every guy, regardless of his size or looks, can come to think of himself as sexy, attractive and worthy of love. And yet others are really only interested in hooking up and sex. The best way to find out is to use the search and filter criteria, read profiles carefully and when in doubt, ask! When you're part of a sub-community like chubs and chasers are, your interests straddle two wants: To be a part of this community and to find individual relationships within it.A chub is any gay or bisexual man who’s, well, chubby.Some bigger gay men are sensitive about their weight and might bristle at being called a chub, but for most, it’s an easy way to identify their body type and find guys who like it (called “chasers”).Today, a bear is any gay or bi man who is hairy (from a little hair to full-on gorilla) and not skinny.Bears can range from beefy (usually called a “muscle bear”) to thick with a belly (a typical “bear”) to fat (a “chubby bear”).
Beyond the newsfeed, the My Type filter allows members to customize what types of members show up in a variety of quicklists, including members nearby and online, members who’ve recently viewed your profile and recently uploaded photos.Chubs come in all shapes and sizes, from guys who are just a little thick to husky to fat to morbidly obese men—who are sometimes called superchubs.There’s no one “right” type of chub and for every kind of chub there are literally thousands of men who think that type is the hottest thing ever.Some users will use the private chat and messaging.